It’s easy to feel like a "villain" for having these thoughts, but from a purely evolutionary and psychological standpoint, there are reasons this happens:
You recognize that your attraction to her mother is not just a passing thought – it’s a symptom. A symptom that you are not truly attracted to your girlfriend. If her mom is “much finer,” that means your girlfriend is not enough for you . Action: You break up with your girlfriend. But you do it kindly, and you never mention her mother as the reason . You say, “I’ve realized we’re not right for each other long-term. You deserve someone who is 100% in this, and that’s not me.” Afterward: Do not under any circumstances contact the mom. Move on. Find someone your own age – or if you genuinely prefer older women, date a different older woman who is not your ex’s mother. My Girlfriend-s Mom Is Much Finer than Her- So ...
You are having problems with your girlfriend. She nags, she’s insecure, she’s messy. Her mom, meanwhile, is gracious, put-together, and laughs at your jokes. Of course she seems finer – you don’t live with her . You’re comparing your girlfriend’s 3 PM sweatpants reality to her mom’s 7 PM dinner-party best. It’s easy to feel like a "villain" for